Apology and Forgiveness

“What if I’m not survived?”

This thought constantly lingered on my mind when I did a self-isolation at home. I got positive for COVID-19 in early July—when the second wave hit Indonesia horribly. It was such a roller coaster condition, emotionally. My parents had it first but thanks to completed doses of vaccine, we only had mild symptoms.

My mind was wandering to every corner of possibility, including the thought of me not being survived and left me with no chance to apologize to people whom I did wrong in the past. I knew I will be fine and recover soon but I couldn’t lie that I’m afraid at that time. What if I suddenly have hard breathing then die? I realize the psychological aspect is an important coping mechanism to prepare when a person gets the virus. It was draining.

One of the people I feel guilty about is my ex from college. And I know the universe has set up something when I suddenly met him a week ago. It’s been a very long time. 8 years ago! We parted not in a good way back then and we haven’t spoken since. No heart-to-heart talk. No closure until now. Though I believe not all things need closure in life. Some are destined to hang as it is. Unfortunately, we didn’t have many moments to chit chat that night, but at a glance I could feel he’s still kind like he used to be.

Over the past 8 years, I have learned a lot about relationships. Everything that happened in my life taught me a valuable lesson. And I realize what I was done to him in the past was not a good deed. I was selfish and not mature enough to be in a relationship. This reflection process led me to an unusual experience when the day after we met, I cried all day long. The memories of my bad deed popped up again and it brought me to a deep feeling of regret. I have never felt this regret in my life, so I decided to write him a letter. It might make me a bit relieved. And it’s never too late to apologize.

He replied to my letter. It ended up that we both sincerely apologized, and we both sincerely forgave. We shared some updates about our life, too. I was totally relieved. But most of all, I never thought that apology and forgiveness can be this beautiful. It gives us a space to contemplate, to be grateful for everything we have, and to improve ourselves. We believe that the past is past and we can always have a chance to be a better person day by day. Thanks, F!

This song accompanied me when writing the letter: Choi Yuree - Wish

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